The Pressure of Wedding Day Traditions

After the most exciting “Yes!” of all, it won’t be as exhilarating to say “yes” to some wedding day traditions. And guess what? Not only is that completely normal, it’s completely healthy and absolutely necessary.

Traditions. They may stem from hundreds of years ago from people we don’t even know, they may be following the footsteps of our own family’s wedding days, or they can even be brand new–dreamed up by you and your spouse to be. Traditions can be brought forth in the grandest of events to the smallest of details. From the father daughter dance, to ensuring you have “something blue” on your wedding day, there is an endless array of wedding day traditions you have likely heard of.

Wedding day tradition pressure

I find that a lot of couples get wrapped up in the stress of following traditions, even when they don’t necessarily want to. A couple of years ago, a groom wanted to do a first look with his wife to be. A first look is a relatively new tradition that allows the newlywed couple the ability to see one another in a private moment before the ceremony.  It provides the most touching of photos, and creates the first peek moment into something even more intimate. It even allows the bride and groom to enjoy more of the cocktail hour themselves, as their photographer will be able to check off some portraits before the ceremony.

Unfortunately, mother of the groom was appalled at the idea. This led to immense stress on the couple. They thought if they did what they both truly wanted, their family would be upset.  As the wedding day is about the couple themselves, this was heartbreaking to hear. Most disheartening of all? This is not a rare roadblock. Nearly all engaged couples run into the wedding day tradition pressure at one point or another. I hear this with things like programs, favors, cakes, unity candle ceremony, rehearsal dinner, and more. The list goes on and on.

So what wedding day traditions to say yes to?

This is far simpler than it seems. Ultimately it’s recognizing when you are saying “I should do this.” versus “I desire to do this.”

Of course, there is a middle ground. If it is something you don’t mind doing that is important to your family, then go for it.

Remember that this rule does not strictly apply to the standard traditions. You can opt into or out of whatever you two would like as it is your day. Don’t want to wear bridal white? Perfect! Would you prefer holding a feather bouquet instead of a floral bouquet? Awesome! I tell every couple to swap the ceremony seating. This goes against the grain, but doing so allows the bride’s side the ability to watch her facial expressions throughout the ceremony, and vise versa for the groom’s family. Some couples feel jarred by this, because it “isn’t normal” and can even feel like it’s not permitted. But remember: it is your day. You make the rules. You say yes to what you love, and no thank you to what you aren’t over the moon about. Just as you felt up in the clouds with joy on your engagement day, build the happenings of your wedding day around all traditions and elements that bring you that same joy. You both deserve it.

Love & Light,

Florida Keys Wedding Planner Frond + Feather Events

Need some more help navigating wedding day traditions and engaged life as a whole? Chat with us today!

By |2020-02-13T13:47:44+00:00February 13th, 2020|

How to Achieve Wedding Budget Bliss

One of the very first things we discuss with our couples is often their most worrisome topic: their budget.

But no matter the budget, we have found that the reason for the worries is always the same. Couples feel compelled to stay in line with the standard wedding day “traditions.” Sure, mom, Aunt Sue, and even your sister may have gone big on florals. Maybe your best friend had the most show-stopping tiered wedding cake. Maybe your childhood neighbor spent an exorbitant amount of her budget on her ballgown.

But what about you?

What if you don’t care as much about these items? What if you and your spouse to be care more about the perfect wine pairings, music that gets your loved ones grooving, and a meal that leaves a lasting impression on everyone’s taste buds?

All of this is perfectly wonderful and perfectly welcome. Why? Because Aunt Sue’s day was unique to her heart’s dreams. Your childhood neighbor admired Cinderella her whole life, so dressing the part on her wedding day thrilled her soul. And just the same, whatever your priorities are, they’re beautiful and unique–just like your love story.

Once we have this heart to heart with our couples, we comb through their top priorities. Let’s say you’re dreaming up luxury florals, but aren’t too concerned about the linens and attire. From there, you can tweak your budget to allocate more of your budget to florals, only leaving what is necessary for attire and linens.

Go big on what matters most to you two.

Do not let the traditions of the past, Aunt Sue’s big day, or anything and anyone else make you feel like you need to spend X amount on a cake if you don’t really desire one. Want a bit more detail? We are all about the details, too! Below, we will list out specific areas and how to cut back in each one.

Florals

Reduce & reuse! Dreaming up a dripping floral arbor for your ceremony, while also wanting a swoon-worthy sweetheart table? Chat with your florist and planner about an arrangement that can be utilized for your arbor, and then moved over to your sweetheart table for your reception. Also consider whatever florals line your aisle being reused for your welcome table, accents at the bar, etc. For your bridesmaids, instead of a full on bouquet, you can opt for a smaller nosegay. We also love the elegant trend of single flowers being walked down the aisle. For your reception and cocktail hour, candles can be key. A simple pillar candle with some greenery can leave as much as if not more of an impression of a full on arrangement.

Sweet Treats

This one is easy as pie. Truly! If your heart isn’t set on a tiered cake, your options are endless. Being in the Florida Keys, you can opt to serve your guests key lime pie, guava cheesecake, or offer an ice cream bar for a cool down experience. Other options include assorted cookies, or a small cake with cupcakes. If you do have your heart set on a traditional cake, but don’t quite have the wiggle room for it, talk to your bakery about a buttercream tiered “fake cake”; with the bottom tiers fake and the top tier real for your cutting moment. After the top tier is cut and the photos are snapped, you can serve your guests sheet cake instead of the more costly tiered cake. They’ll never know, we promise.

Wining & Dining

If neither one of you are big drinkers, we always recommend opting for the lowest bar package your venue or catering company offers. Being in the Keys, the offerings even on the lowest packages are all excellent choices. If your venue charges extra for a champagne toast, opt to cut the toast from your price per person cost, and encourage your loved ones to raise whatever may be in their glass at the moment. With the sight of you two in their vision as they sit back and enjoy the Florida Keys, we promise, they won’t mind.

For food, ask your venue or catering company about stations. Sometimes, they will offer an assortment of different food stations. Pairing these together can be more cost effective than a buffet package. If you’d like to stick to a plated offering, offer your guests two options to select from on their RSVP card instead of three, as this can also help cut costs. Do not be afraid to ask questions! The Keys’ chefs love getting creative, and are happy to customize whatever is needed to bring your dream to life.

Just like anything else, it all begins and ends with prioritizing what is important. Chat with us about your dreamiest details. We will match you up with the best vendor team fit for your visions–all within your budget. Budget (and bridal) bliss, here we come!

With Warmth,

By |2020-02-11T13:17:30+00:00December 12th, 2019|

Top 3 Reasons to Hire A Wedding Planner in the Fabulous Florida Keys

You’ve said “YES!”. But after your engagement is officially official, there’s another thing you should say yes to very soon after: a wedding planner.

We truly adore our incredible couples. As such, we are always wanting what is best for them. Even if we were not in the wedding planning business, we would still agree that the biggest mistake engaged couples make is not hiring a planner. We are fairly certain our fellow vendor friends would agree, too!

To help paint the picture a bit more, we’ve rounded up our Top 3 Reasons to Hire A Wedding Planner in the Fabulous Florida Keys. Snag a holiday cocktail, a Christmas cookie (or two) and dive in with us!

1.) You’re the star of the show.

Yep, it’s true. This day is all about you two: past, present, and your beautiful looking future. Do you want to be waiting in the wings? Do you really want to be calling wedding vendors in your wedding gown? Ensuring all is going according to plan? Lining everyone up for your ceremony and being so involved that your spouse to be sees you before the special peek? Of course not! That’s where your planner steps in. We always recommend opting for a full service package, but if that’s not feasible, having a trusted, licensed and insured hand to guide the main players throughout your wedding day is absolutely essential. Spotlight, on!

2.) You’ll gain your wedding vendor dream team.

Once you’ve hired a planner, one of the first things you’ll chat through together is your budget. You will discuss what is most important to you in terms of splurges, and what you’re willing to cut back on a bit to accommodate your top priorities. The best part of this? Your planner already knows how much is customary to allot to each piece of your wedding day puzzle. Even better? He or she will be able to point you in the perfect direction as far as assembling your vendor team.

Have a specific vibe in mind for your DJ? Dreaming up the most elaborate, unique florals? Your planner has trusted contacts in the area that have worked with countless times. They’ll be able to partner you with who they know will take your visions and knock them out of the island! Also note, mostly all venues in the Florida Keys require a license and ensured wedding planner. Hiring the perfect fit for you and your partner gets you one step closer to landing the full dream team–venue and all!

3.) You & your guests will (fully) enjoy island time.

You and your loved ones very likely traveled quite far to get to the Keys. One of the best parts of having a destination wedding is that it doubles as a family reunion, too. With nearest and dearests all traveling, your wedding weekend becomes a vacation for all, too. Knowing your wedding planner has everything perfectly orchestrated, you’ll be able to put your feet up and enjoy fun in the sun alongside everyone you love. Even better than that? You won’t be stressed out on your Best Day.

In return, the ones closest to you won’t be either. Wouldn’t you hate to dream up this day your whole life, only to have your mom running around organizing vendors, your sister trying to assemble centerpieces, and your cousins constantly having to check in on the vendors throughout the night, ensuring the timeline is adhered to? Phew! Surely not!

Say “YES!” to hiring your wedding planner in the Florida Keys. We can assure you, it’s something worth raising your key lime pie to.

With Warmth,

 

By |2020-02-11T13:20:36+00:00December 5th, 2019|