People Pleasing Brides & Grooms: A Pep Talk
Almost Forgot This Is the Whole Point
People pleasing brides & grooms…this one is for you. <3
This past summer, you’ve likely seen the social media videos touting “almost forgot this is the whole point”. A lovey-dovey couple giggling together, a family playing a board game, a marathon runner smooching their spouse at the finish line. Moments like these remind us that the beauty of life is in the joy we feel. The moments that are universally seen and felt. In the wedding world, we see a lot of joy. We see a lot of emotions as a whole, and we gratefully welcome them all. But there’s one thing we wish we could kick to the curb for good: people-pleasing tendencies in our sweet couples.
Why People-Pleasing Brides & Grooms Get Stuck
We know people pleasing comes from love. You want your mom, Aunt Sue, and Uncle Jimmy to have the very best time. You want every guest to feel seen, comfortable, and over the moon with the night, including their entire Florida Keys wedding weekend. And truly, that intention is beautiful. But here’s the truth: the people who matter most, those who know you at your very core, notice you, not every little detail. Stress in your demeanor shows up in a heartbeat. Fake smiles? Instantly detected. And most importantly of all, your soon-to-be spouse will know it and feel it, too. No bueno.
Your Happiness Is Contagious
Dear people-pleasing bride or groom, your wedding day isn’t a performance, despite what social media may lead you to believe. It’s a celebration of a LIFETIME of love, commitment, and the sky-is-the-limit life you’re about to build together. How INCREDIBLE is that?! The people who care about you most, your partner, your closest friends, and your family, want to see you happy. Not orchestrating everyone else’s fun. Not copying and pasting what the internet wants you to do. They want to see YOU. They want to watch the day unfold and feel the true spirit of you and your partner as a couple.
The details matter, but only to the extent that they get to tangibly tell the story of your one-of-a-kind love. Let go of trying to satisfy everyone else. Trust the people who genuinely love you (and your rockstar team of local wedding vendors 😉 ). They will feel your light, not your stress.
This *Is* the Whole Point
Don’t forget. Savor your day. Laugh, cry, dance, and revel in it all. The moments that matter most are the ones you truly feel. The laughter, the tears, the joy shared with your partner and your nearest and dearest. You won’t get the chance to actually feel any of that if your head is wrapped up in everyone else’s opinions. The stolen kiss behind the bar. The twinkle in your spouse’s eye as you descend the aisle. The hug from your sister on the dance floor. This…this is the whole point.
With Love & Light,
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